What’s to Come

(Inspired by a NPR Poetry Prompt)

I dream a world where oppression is suffocated by kindness,

not a false, plastered on kindness that puffs up the perceived worthy,

but a true kindness that reaches to elevate those struggling under the

weight of generational ideology that’s past its expiration date.


I dream a world where our differences don’t mandate our division;

where we celebrate, rather than seek to obliterate, our unique cultures and

weave a glorious tapestry of our many-colored threads.


I dream a world where we value truth above power;

where the value and well-being of every individual

is our collective goal.


I am not better because you are less and you are not less because I deem myself better.


I dream a world where we appoint leaders who inspire

common goals born of calling us to a deeper understanding;

leaders who surround themselves with visionaries and sages rather than acolytes.


I dream a world where we can gracefully dismantle the old ways that impede progress while merging wise ways with new ways that forge a more equitable future.
I dream a world that has more faith than fear as we face what’s to come.

Coping Tools for a Busy Season

Coping Tools for Busy ScheduleHoly crisp everything is hitting at once. Did you survive the back to school scramble? Do you have your coping tools ready to go?

Summer is over and fall, while not official until September 23rd, is here. I love the trappings of fall, but dang it’s a busy season. Sports, music, volunteer requests, mountains of paperwork, school projects, and oh yes, your own separate list of goals you hope to accomplish while the kids are in school. AND THEN THERE’S WORK. How do we keep it all together? Let’s talk about the state of our minds in relation to our schedules.

Shifting seasons, particularly from summer into fall then onto winter can alter our brain chemistry. Aside from nutrition and exercise, what are your coping skills? I’m going to list a few of mine to get the ball rolling.

TOOLS (we all need them) Disclaimer: these are from a 2015 post. I noted my updates. Tried and true, many of them still work great. Continue reading


Whole30 Finish LineI completed my first Whole30 round on March 30th and a few friends asked me to share my take aways.

Why I did Whole30:

I started this journey because I’m facing transition and want to feel healthy, energized, and capable. March 5th marked the 4-year anniversary of my divorce and I’ve spent the past few years recovering, finding forward, and learning to manage my health after being diagnosed with Hashimotos. Hashimotos is an auto immune disease that attacks my thyroid and compromises my immune system, energy, concentration, and weight. As far as auto immune diseases go, it’s one of the more manageable ones, but it’s still a time thief and I have to pace myself.

What Whole30 is:

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Surviving Summer

We’re smack in the middle of summer and this is the first year since having Tips for Surving Summerchildren that I’ve felt calm and capable. I know a lot of moms with younger children who aren’t quite there yet. I promise, it will get better. Surviving summer used to be a major hurdle for me and I’ve learned a few strategies along the way.

While many of us revel in the sunshine, longer days, and more relaxed schedules—others face the season reluctantly.  Reverse seasonal affective disorder impacts one-tenth of the population and can be debilitating. The good news is that awareness, planning, and self-care can help you face summer with a lighter spirit. Here’s a quick list of causes for summer depression with strategies for overcoming them.

1. Expectations

Cause: Everyone around you is romping in the sun. Why aren’t you? Living up to summer expectations can be overwhelming if you aren’t naturally inclined toward fun in the sun.

Strategy: Be kind to yourself, give yourself grace, and identify the root cause. If expectations are weighing you down, seek help. A session with a professional psychotherapist can help you re-frame and survive summer by finding a solutions that work for you. Keep reading for specific causes for summer depression and suggestions to combat them.  Continue reading

Summer Boredom Busters for Kids

Screen free summer for kidsWe all know limiting screen time during summer is a challenge. If you work from home, and need your kids to stay occupied and out of trouble without destroying your house, it’s even more of a challenge.

I created a Boredom Busters list a few years ago that I still post every summer. Click Boredom Busters to open the printable file.

This year we added a chore app to our arsenal. Chorma. It allows you to assign points to chores linked to a reward system. I chose a $20 gift card (their choice) if they reach 85 points. Chorma worked like a charm the first week and though the novelty has worn off, my kids are still working toward that gift card. I’m nagging less than usual, so it’s working. I think I’ll add extra points to ensure they clean up after any boredom buster activities.

I’d love to hear your ideas for a screen free summer. Good luck and Happy Summer!



Is your family prepared for an emergency?

questions-2245264_1920Family Emergency Plan

There’s been a series of small (3.4 ish) quakes in Kitsap County over the past few days and although I choose to believe these small quakes are relieving pressure and staving off the ‘big one,’ it’s prompted me to review our emergency plan.

After my divorce 3 years ago I went through a disaster preparedness phase. It was part of my process in establishing my new head of household position. I needed to feel secure and prepared. For the most part, on a nominal level, I think we are. Are you?

There are a lot of wonderful resources online, but I thought I’d share some of the simple steps we’ve taken in case it helps anyone else. Scroll to the bottom for links to kits and printable plans. It’s a good idea to review your plan with your family. Continue reading

This Little Octopus


Coping Skills



Reposting from March, 2016. I have this little octopus pendant that I wear and people often comment on it. I’ve been asked several times if it holds significance for me. It does.

Overcoming Trauma

My son fell out a second story window when he was three and fractured his skull. He spent six days in intensive care. He was intubated for the first three days and had a bolt drilled into his brain to monitor the bleed. It was traumatic in more ways than one, but God is good and my son emerged miraculously intact. He’s ten now and he’s bright, articulate, funny, and charming. He’s also moody. A lot of ten year old boys are­­— but he has ADHD and can be hypersensitive at times.

We were told that the impact to his frontal lobe might make him angry and impulsive. I decided to channel my anxiety over what that might mean for him into teaching him coping skills. Continue reading

Halloween and Grief

Halloween and GriefI’m re-posting a blog piece from last year because it rings true again this year. My sister-in-law’s sister asked her Facebook friends to be sensitive to those who have lost loved ones by considering how they approach their Halloween decorations. For those of you who don’t know, we lost my sister-in-law to suicide in July. I’ll admit that it has changed the tone of Halloween for us this year. My son is particularly sensitive to anything he perceives as ‘dark.’ I can only imagine how the holiday will affect the families of those who just lost their lives in the recent shooting in Oregon.

Observing Halloween, or All Hallow’s Eve, has its place. It can allow us to explore our fear of death in a healthy way and honor our departed. For my part, celebrating horror is not on the list of ways to process the loss of those we love.

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